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You can use this with your wife, your girlfriend, or a new friend you just met…
And she will start looking at you in a whole new way…
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It was discovered by a Swiss psychologist who introduced it to me… It’s only found here.
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Many men report things kind of get steamy BEFORE they ever even reach the bed.
Transform your entire life with this one little tip (you’ve never heard this before)
I hear it all the time. Men say to me, “Matt, this is something I really want to do, but I can’t seem to make myself do it.”
It’s really not their fault either.
This “willpower” or “self-control” battle is a battle that’s existed since humans first developed what we now call “free will” or the ability to make our own choices about stuff.
We’ve been told for most of human history that, when faced with a difficult situation, we should buck up and exert willpower or self-control…
We believe that’s the only way to overcome addictions and bad habits – or to create good habits.
The problem is this: For humans, willpower or self-control is an extremely limited resource…
We have extremely limited abilities to protect ourselves from behaviors we either want to quit (like eating too many potato chips) or that we want to adopt (like exercising).
The good news is that behavioral science is starting to identify several different strategies beyond just willpower alone…
Ways that we can create leverage in our lives and make the changes we WANT to make.
Imagine living exactly the life you WANT to live. It’s pretty powerful stuff.
Here are SEVERAL strategies that really work to change habits and behavior and don’t rely completely on self-control in the moment – which is notoriously weak.
Self-control strategies aren’t one-size-fits-all.
The first thing you need to know about different strategies for self-control is that they aren’t “one-size-fits-all.”
Not every strategy works in every situation, so it’s important to try different strategies until you find one that works well for you
Let’s take a look at four different strategies and see how you can use them in your everyday life.
Controlling your environment
Personally, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE white chocolate. It’s my food kryptonite.
But I also know that it’s very fatty and that having a ton of fat in my diet isn’t good for my health.
So I control my environment when it comes to white chocolate. I don’t buy it, and I don’t keep it in the house.
If it’s in the house, then I’ll eat it. That’s just the way it is for me.
“[The researchers] observe that in some cases the best self-control strategy involves us changing the situation to create incentives or obstacles that help us exercise self-control, such as using apps that restrict our phone usage or keeping junk food out of the house.”
By keeping the junk food out of the house, I don’t have to exercise self-control in the moment – I don’t eat it because it’s not there.
But what if the behavior you’re trying to create isn’t something you can just avoid through environmental control?
Creating an if-then plan
One of my favorite ways to create behavioral change is to implement environment control with an if-then plan.
My friend Beth does this very well. She wanted to start using her lunch break for a short walk in the woods every day it was nice out.
So she created an if-then plan along with a physical environment cue.
Her if-then plan was “If I am going on lunch break, then I am going to my car and putting on my hiking boots.” (As part of this plan, she put her boots in the car in the morning.)
The act of changing her shoes is enough to get her to go take a walk every day.
If-then plans can be powerful tactics for behavioral change.
“We can change how we think about the situation – for example, by making an if-then plan to anticipate how we’ll deal with treats in the office – so that exercising self-control becomes more appealing or easier to accomplish.”
Another powerful influencer of human behavior (whether we like it or not) are social norms.
And we can structure them in a way that will help us change our behavior to meet our goals.
Measuring against social norms
You can influence both your own behavior and other people’s by using social norms.
For instance, if you want to learn how to speak in public – join a public speaking group like Toastmasters…
There, everybody in the group EXPECTS you to get better at speaking in public and is working on the same goal themselves.
“Other strategies work better when someone else implements them for us. For example, our electricity company might use social norms to prompt a change in our thinking, showing us how our energy usage compares with that of our neighbors.”
Measuring against social norms is also how groups like Alcoholics Anonymous function.
If you’re having a hard time getting to the behavior you want, then join a group where the behavior you’re looking for is common and use social norms to your advantage.
Make it a default behavior
This is one of my FAVORITE strategies.
Having to THINK about behavior takes a tremendous amount of resources.
The more automatic we can make a desired behavior, the more resources we have when it counts.
“Employers are increasingly using another type of situational constraint, defaults, to encourage employees to save for retirement; many are requiring people to opt out of an employer-provided retirement plan if they don’t want to participate.”
Making sex a default behavior is exactly why Jodi and I schedule our bedroom time.
A lot of people think that lacks spontaneity…
But, because it’s the default rather than something we have to think about, we have a LOT of amazing sex.
It’s never an issue, and it’s a whole lot of fun.
Implementing strategies beyond willpower to get the results you want can set you up for MAJOR success.
Sexy Russian girl story (NSFW)
Here is the naughty story of Sofia, the sexy daughter of a Russian crime boss, and the crazy sex she has with my friend, Yuri…
- Self-Control and Its Discontents: A Commentary on Duckworth, Milkman, and Laibson https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1529100619828401
- Effective self-control strategies involve much more than willpower https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/02/190214153023.htm
- The 'Operational' Definition of Self-Control - NCBI https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6058080/
- Strengthening Self-Control http://homepages.se.edu/cvonbergen/files/2013/01/Strengthing-Self-Control.pdf